Comments for Gentle Spirit

Comment on Impolite Sadist by Gentle Spirit

Gentle Spirit — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 05:43:57 +0000

Way to kill the erotic mood my lovely sadist. Impolite Sadist was a good choice for this piece. That was pretty funny though sweetheart. I will give it an honorable mention in the “whips” installment of the weekend. Yeah, running around a tiny radius whipping eachothers butts. I think that even tops Do Re Mi……I love you honey.

Comment on Impolite Sadist by Dreamwalker

Dreamwalker — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 05:41:11 +0000

You left out the part when we were running around in the room in circles chasing each other with the whips, honey…

Grins.

It was such a lovely weekend that you planned for us, lovely GentleSpirit. You are my treasure and I cherish you, girl.

Comment on This Moment by KaziGrrl

KaziGrrl — Wed, 02 Feb 2011 11:19:42 +0000

We just never know when it could happen that we might lose all, so it is always good to live in the moment as if this was the last time. I’ve lost several friends around my age recently, mostly to cancer, and it definitely gets those thoughts going… :s

Comment on I Deserve to Be Heard by kinkylittlegirl

kinkylittlegirl — Thu, 06 Jan 2011 06:55:18 +0000

I’m so sorry you had to go through this, Gentlespirit. My own path through my last relationship (also abusive) was not as horrific, but abuse is never pretty. I’m very glad you’ve found someone you can trust and love again; it gives me hope that perhaps one day I’ll be able to find my way back to the kink that once fed my own core, that I’ll be able to find someone I can trust the way you trust Dreamwalker.

I agree that if anyone recognizes anything in your post, they are not in a loving D/s relationship – or indeed, *any* kind of loving relationship.

It’s actually quite hard at times, as Lila said, to tell the difference. Most of my blog is devoted to what those differences are, and I’ve got a ton of links to an incredible amount of information about abuse in general, abuse vs BDSM in particular, how to recognize the difference, get help, etc. My hope is to help spare others as much of that pain as possible, to provide information that will help them tell the difference and find a way to get out before an abusive relationship destroys their lives and souls.

Sadly, because of ongoing demands and not-very-veiled threats from my abuser, I’ve had to delete or password protect most of my personal posts, which leaves me without the voice I had hoped to use a blog for, but hopefully the more generic information will still be helpful for others.

Comment on Feminism…Yeah, I really said that by kinkylittlegirl

kinkylittlegirl — Thu, 06 Jan 2011 06:08:22 +0000

Excellent post, Gentle Spirit. I don’t agree with all of your points, but the overall idea that feminism may be responsible for many of the ills in today’s society, and your thoughts on the specifics of this, is certainly all food for thought.

Comment on Feminism…Yeah, I really said that by FiendofAllKink

FiendofAllKink — Thu, 06 Jan 2011 03:40:23 +0000

Thank you, very well said!

Comment on Feminism…Yeah, I really said that by sweetwhispers

sweetwhispers — Wed, 05 Jan 2011 19:33:39 +0000

Wow! Bravo on the who thing! I agreed with it all and have always thought and felt this way. Its so reassuring and wonderful to find others who see it this way too. Thank you! From the bottom of my heart thank you!!!

Comment on I Deserve to Be Heard by Gentle Spirit

Gentle Spirit — Mon, 03 Jan 2011 03:10:36 +0000

If you recognize anything in this post, then you are not in a loving d/s relationship and I would advise you for your own well being, happiness and safety to leave. Leave and don’t look back. I know it is easier said than done. I can only say that bursts of abusive behavior are nothing to do with d/s. They are non-consensual and dangerous and very harmful.

Stop giving him the benefit of the doubt and put yourself first. A good dominant is always in control of himself. Always. Losing control of himself is a huge red flag.

I am so sorry you are going through this, but I am glad you came across it because I hope with all of my heart that you do what is best for you. At least it got you thinking.

Please feel free to message me if you would like to chat further about this.

Comment on I Deserve to Be Heard by Lila

Lila — Sun, 02 Jan 2011 17:45:00 +0000

I can’t decide yet… I can’t decide if I am in this kind of relationship with my boyfriend or something more like Dom/sub relationships. I think it might be both, or balanced between the two. That scares me a little. I think it could go either way really is the thing. He has bursts of abusive behavior and he can be very controlling, but I almost thing that it’s because he’d rather be controlling in other ways and he’s afraid to be. I don’t know. I read this and I could see my relationship turning into that and it scares me.

Comment on Surrender by KitKat

KitKat — Mon, 20 Dec 2010 03:20:03 +0000

Your words are very encouraging and very powerful. Intimacy in mind body and spirit is what I am looking for in my life. TRUE surrender of self, so that when partnered a team is formed. With My Dom taking the lead, and me by his side, lovingly by his side.